Desirae specializes in helping couples navigate complex challenges in their relationships, including recovering from affairs or betrayals, addressing intimacy issues, and improving communication. With a compassionate yet direct approach, she empowers clients to build authentic and joyful connections with their partners.
Desirae earned both her Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Master of Arts in Counseling from the University of Texas at San Antonio. She has been a Licensed Professional Counselor since 2006 and a board-approved Supervisor for LPC-Associates since 2012. Upon entering private practice in 2009, she has focused exclusively on relationship counseling.
Desirae‘s therapeutic style draws from Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a highly effective approach that emphasizes shifting from individual empowerment to relational empowerment. By offering guidance and constructive feedback, she helps clients create transformative changes in their relationships. She works with relationships of all kinds—monogamous, polyamorous, dating, or married—and is passionate about supporting LGBTQ+ couples and culturally or spiritually diverse partnerships. Desirae’s relationship work extends beyond romantic partnerships, supporting adults who wish to strengthen family dynamics with parents, siblings, and other loved ones.
In addition to her clinical work, Desirae is the Director of Training and Certification for the Relational Life Institute. She became a Certified RLT Couples Therapist in 2018, training directly with Terry Real, the founder of RLT. Today, she oversees the institute’s global training program, teaching therapists and coaches worldwide to use this powerful relational approach.
When she’s not working, Desirae enjoys reading, practicing yoga, walking her dog, and spending quality time with her husband, daughter, and friends. You might also find her exploring her beloved city of San Antonio or relaxing with a good book and a glass of wine.
Desirae helps couples caught in a cycle of volatile communication and emotional tension find healthy ways to resolve conflict.
She provides tools to de-escalate heated interactions, identify underlying triggers, and rebuild a sense of mutual understanding and respect.
Infidelity can shatter trust, but it doesn’t have to be the end. Healing is possible.
Desirae guides couples through the complex emotions of betrayal, helping them process pain, rebuild trust, and create a stronger, more transparent relationship moving forward.
If your relationship feels beyond repair, Desirae specializes in helping couples explore whether reconciliation is possible.
Through intensive, solution-focused work, she supports couples in addressing deep-rooted issues, improving communication, and rediscovering their connection.
If emotional distance has left your relationship feeling empty, Desirae helps couples identify barriers to closeness and reconnect on a deeper level.
She supports clients in fostering emotional intimacy, enhancing vulnerability, and reigniting the bond that once brought them together
At this time, Desirae is not taking on new clients for regular couples therapy sessions. In order to facilitate transformation in your relationship as quickly as possible, Desirae only offers all-day intensive sessions in San Antonio.
Desirae says, “My office is a welcoming and affirming space for non-heteronormative couples as well as cishet/straight couples at any stage of their relationship. “
“Using the Relational Life Therapy approach, we will get to the root cause of your disharmony and develop a new way of communicating that allows for growth and healing. “
After the 2-Day Couples Intensive, you and your partner will have new skills and new perspective that allow you to continue to heal and move forward instead of staying stuck in the past.
Please reach out to us for specific pricing.
Yes. If you decide with Desirae that follow-up sessions would be beneficial to your long-term recovery, they are available on a case-by-case basis.
Couples Intensive is equivalent to 8 traditional couples therapy sessions. The concentrated format allows for accelerated progress, enabling couples to make significant strides in a short period of time.
Couples intensives are perfect for couples who are stuck in destructive cycles and are looking to make rapid change in their relationship.
2-Day Couples Intensives are offered on Saturday/Sunday and last from 10 am to 4 pm with a 1-hour lunch break in the middle.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
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May 17th and 18th, 2025
San Antonio, TX
